Biyernes, Agosto 2, 2013

Things That Happy People Wont Do



Happiness: something everyone hopes to achieve in his or her lifetime. Such a simple concept, yet many have trouble realizing how to obtain it. Sometimes we unintentionally create our own obstacles that prevent us from achieving this goal. It is ever so important to realize the ways we are limiting ourselves so we can fully reach happiness.
Happy people and unhappy people see the world through two completely opposing views. Let’s look at the ways happy people stay happy, while the unhappy remain miserable.
1. Gossip
The only people who gossip are people whose personal lives are not fulfilling enough. If you are happy and content with your life, why do you even care what is going on in someone else’s? There is no reason to engage in this petty behavior — all it does is make you look pathetic and jealous.


2. Concern Themselves With Other People’s Problems
People who are unable to mind their own business are most likely internally miserable. They seek to find faults within others just to make themselves feel better. They tend to lead boring lives and have no excitement in their own, so they act in this manner to create something out of nothing. They seek to fill the gap in their lives by discussing the lives of others and judging them harshly, so that they can feel better about their own miserable existences.


3. Think Negatively
There are the miserable people, who are always complaining about anything and everything, while on the other side, we have the optimistic people who always look at the glass as half full and are constantly looking for more out of life. Thinking positively will directly affect your happiness since you are focusing on the good as opposed to the bad.


4. Act Jealous
There is no reason for a happy person to act jealous towards others. They recognize the good fortune they possess and relish in it. They do not compare themselves to others since they are more than likely content with themselves. Instead of acting jealous towards others, they take pleasure in their success and celebrate their accomplishments with them.



5. Seek Validation From Others
Happy people do not look to others to confirm their self-worth. They recognize their value on their own and don’t live up to anyone’s expectations. They do things for themselves that they believe will advance them in life. By not concerning themselves with the opinions of others, they can focus on personal growth.


6. Seek Revenge
There is no reason to actively seek revenge against another person. Leave that up to karma and just continue living your life accordingly. Instead of focusing on revenge, happy people try to make peace with the issue. The only way to stop revenge is to give up and to accept it. Replace the evil feelings with opposite thinking. This is the only way; rise above it and let it be.


7. Hold Onto Resentment
By holding onto resentment, all you are doing is continuing and intensifying your own sadness. Learn to let things go, especially those which are unchangeable and that are in the past. This feeling will eat at you from the inside and cause stress. There is a unique sense of freedom once you let your anger go.


8. Argue For The Sake Of Being Right
It’d be easy to voice my thoughts rationally, but quite as easy to do it condescendingly as well. Many people will have a belief and will hold onto it even when contrary facts are presented to them. If it is a topic that you know they won’t listen to with open ears, don’t open your mouth just so you can appear wiser in the eyes of those around you. You’re only boosting your ego. Do not force your opinions on others or think you know best, as everyone is coming from somewhere. State your point calmly and listen to others. At the very least, you can always agree to disagree.



9. Have Expectations
One of the biggest challenges we face in life is learning to accept people for who they truly are. Once you realize that your expectations cannot change people, the better off you will be. The problem will arise when the expectations do not materialize. Unrealistic expectations will, can, and most often do lead to disappointment. Do not expect things out of situations; just go into them with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.


10. Avoid Personal Problems
When a problem arises, it is the unhappy people who tend to ignore it. This is an awful way to handle situations as the longer you let a problem linger, the greater it will become. You need to tackle issues head on and as soon as possible in hopes of rectifying the circumstances. The stress and anxiety of ignoring such things can and will make you miserable and consumed with worry.


11. Look For Happiness Externally
Your happiness is contingent upon your outlook and not the actual situation. You have the power to view things in certain ways, so it is crucial to try and remain positive. Look within yourself to create your own happiness. Do not look at others to fulfill you, you are more than capable on your own. No relationship or material possession can bring you true happiness until you are happy on your own, first and foremost. This is a fatal error far too many people make in their lives.


12. Over Think Things
Over thinking is what creates problems from nothing and is probably the leading cause for arguments between two people. Many people falsely believe that by over thinking certain things, they can garner a better result. There are actually little to no benefits to overanalyzing any given situation. All this will do is cause a person stress and anxiety. The more time a person analyzes a decision, the more time this person makes themselves susceptible to negative thinking. Rational decisions can become clouded when a person lingers on them for too long. The motivation and drive behind the initial idea can and will start to obscure.



13. Live In The Past

The past is the past for a reason — it has already happened. There is no reason to linger there since it cannot be changed. Happy people tend to make peace with their past and focus on the future. They actively seek out different opportunities in order to make the most out of their lives.


14. Follow The Crowd
Confidence is a crucial aspect of any happy person, just like this is a critical characteristic for a leader. Happy people tend to be secure in their values and beliefs and, as a result, have a propensity to be leaders as opposed to followers.


15. Take Things Personally
When you hear a comment that you think is directed at you, take a moment and think. Do not over analyze the situation at hand, just let the other person speak freely. Listen completely to what this person is saying – selective hearing is the cause of these misinterpretations. People tend to get caught up in petty drama, which typically occurs when one person takes something the wrong way. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much more you could achieve with a new perspective, one seen only through your eyes.
Note: This article was lifted from elitedaily.com

Huwebes, Enero 5, 2012

I am Welcomed, Therefore I Belong

We are all experts in creating the perfect farewell party for co-workers who are leaving the company but have you ever thought about how you were treated when you joined your company. Let's take a trip down the memory lane. Remember the cold stares? The cold shoulder?

Let's change all that. Let us make our new co-workers feel that they are welcome.

Bring in the welcome wagon! You have  to make the new employee feel that they are welcomed to make them feel belonged. Let us reinforce the belief that the company employees are glad they are there and want them to succeed.

As part of the welcoming team, here are my commitments to you our new members:
  • I will clearly communicate the mission and goals of the company to the staff.
  • I will consistently advocate for quality information.
  • I will provide regular ongoing feedback to staff.
  • I will facilitate, coach and support staff's effort to succeed.
  • I will provide meaningful recognition of staff success.
  • I will support diversity in the workplace.
  • I will set clear direction and follow through.
  • I will exhibit integrity and honesty.
  • I will trust the staff to perform professionally.
  • I will deal courageously with difficult situations.
And lastly, I will SMILE. Nothing is more welcoming than a sincere smile. Personal and will surely warm the chilled atmosphere.

Linggo, Disyembre 18, 2011

Q: How important is money in evaluating your job?


There is no denying that a supportive boss or warm camaraderie can help boost the morale of employees, but work environment is not the lone factor that keeps people in their current job.

  • There are tons of reasons that inspire people to keep on going but the bottom line is money. It is the money that pays the rent, puts food on the table, sends children to school and takes one to new and exciting places.
  • In a survey among 3 million expatriates workers in the UAE, 67% is looking for pay rise while 47% might quit the job if promotion is not on the way.
  • The superheated job market in the UAE in the recent years (inflated salaries are used to attract talents) gave way to the perception that salary is the determining factor for employee loyalty. However, when the job market cooled off, there are other factors that are impacting employee commitment and loyalty.
  • The payoff of providing financial rewards to deserving and qualified staff is still worth the investment for companies.  The pay should be linked to performance and the company should have a transparent performance management system.

Why high caliber talent needs looking after?

  • It is five times more expensive to rehire someone and keep them performing than to keep the “star employees” in the team.
  • As hiring increases and the ability to attract high-calibre talent becomes more competitive, companies will need to look at their employee offering both in terms of remuneration and career development opportunities.
  • Employers should treat their employees as fixed investments. A senior staff member, whom the boss relies to, for example, will lost feel heartbroken when he learned that a newcomer gets the same salary as he is. For him, it was like being treated unfairly and will lost interest in his job.
           

Factors lead to leaving a job

Aside from insufficient salary, there are other factors that compel workers to quit their jobs.

Fact:

Top 5 reasons for UAE Professionals to quit their job

Lack of communication and involvement by top management                51%
Lack of promotion despite good results                                                   47%
Lack of company ‘vision’                                                                          31%
Too lengthy to commute to work                                                             25%
The boss is taking credit for your own work                                            24%

  • Irreconcilable differences between a worker and a manager can drive an employee away. Employees will start looking for new opportunities when they aren’t respected in the workplace.
  • Company politics, lack of career development and poor leadership and management can also turn off workers.
  • During times of economic instability, leadership and communication are king. Poor leadership and management result in no empowerment, direction or motivation for employees. This leads down to breakdown in trust.

Why workers stay loyal?
  • Personal growth rank among the top three reasons why workers stay loyal.
  • Employees are likely to stay if they feel they are growing and developing in their career. This doesn’t mean a promotion but that they are bettering themselves and their future.
  • Other will stay for benefits aside from their salary.

lead or be led...



Here are a few leadership challenges to ponder…
  • If you want to lead, where do you start?
  • Are Leaders born or made?
  • What are the leadership skills you need to develop?
  • Are you tired of being a follower?


Want to be a leader? Here’s what it takes…
  1. Maintain a positive attitude… solution oriented, action oriented, people oriented. Enthusiasm begets success.
  2. Embrace change…Change is certain. Followers tend to resist change. It is the mark of a leader to embrace change and take advantage of the opportunity it presents.
  3. Deploy courage…Douglas MacArthur said, “Courage is just fear that holds out a little longer.” Good advice. George Patton said, “I don’t take counsel from my fears.’ Good advice. Leaders choose courage.
  4. Take a risk…The biggest risk is to never take one. Leaders are determined to win or try again.
  5. Listen…Leaders listen to learn. Your prospects know their needs and they know what’s happening on the frontlines of their business. Just listen.
  6. Communicate…Leaders set the example for open communication. Use their heads. Say what they feel. Speak from their heart.
  7. Delegate and empower…Leaders share responsibility. They don’t dictate, they set examples for others to follow. Leaders encourage growth in others by challenging them to take new responsibility, encouraging them to succeed and supporting them if they fail. Leaders understand that the mistakes are lessons on the way to success.
  8. Understand others, yourself and your situations…Leaders understand the importance of an open, inquisitive mind. A constant quest for knowledge brings greater understanding,
  9. Commitment… Commitment is the catalyst that makes all the other leadership qualities a reality. Daily rededication to commitment is the difference between leaders and would-be leaders,

Start small. Lead a group or committee. Do whatever is necessary to make it a winner. Do it again until it begins to feel natural. Respect the power of leadership and the power of the people you seek to lead.

Biyernes, Disyembre 16, 2011

finding your peace of mind

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were travelling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that some people were washing clothes in the water and, right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!” So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”
After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake. This time he found that the lake had absolutely clear water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said, “See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be ... and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water... Your mind is also like that. When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.”

What did Buddha emphasize here? He said, “It is effortless.” Having 'peace of mind' is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process. When there is peace inside you, that peace permeates to the outside. It spreads around you and in the environment, such that people around start feeling that peace and grace.

Biyernes, Disyembre 9, 2011

A Woman and Her Birthday


Birthdays are time for fun and frolic and remind people that they are growing older.
Celebrate!
  1. "Time and Tide wait for no man, but time always stands still for a woman of thirty."
  2. "Thirty five is a very attractive age; London society is full of women who have of their own free choice remained thirty-five for years."
  3. "Inside every older person is a younger person - wondering what the hell happened."
  4. "Old age isn’t so bad when you consider the alternative."
  5. "You are only young once, but you can be immature for a lifetime."
  6. "Age is a number and mine is unlisted."
  7. "A well-adjusted woman is one who not only knows what she wants for her birthday, but even knows what she's going to exchange it for."
  8. "The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age."
  9. "Inflation is when you pay fifteen dollars for the ten-dollar haircut you used to get for five dollars when you had hair."
  10. "As you get older three things happen. The first is your memory goes, and I can't remember the other two."
  11. "Thanks to modern medical advances such as antibiotics, nasal spray, and Diet Coke, it has become routine for people in the civilized world to pass the age of 40, sometimes more than once."
  12. "When I have a birthday I take the day off. But when my wife has a birthday, she takes a year or two off."
  13. "The first sign of maturity is the discovery that the volume knob also turns to the left."
  14. "Age is strictly a case of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter."
  15. "You know you are getting old when the candles cost more than the cake."
  16. "You are only young once, but you can be immature for a lifetime."
  17. "A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman's birthday but never remembers her age."
  18. "Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional."
  19. "A woman has the age she deserves."
  20. "Age is not a particularly interesting subject. Anyone can get old. All you have to do is live long enough."
  21. "Life is a moderately good play with a badly written third act."
  22. "Men grow old, pearls grow yellow, there is no cure for it."
  23. "Life is one long process of getting tired."
  24. "Let us respect gray hairs, especially our own."
  25. "Growing old is like being increasingly penalized for a crime you have not committed."
  26. "When I was younger, I could remember anything, whether it happened or not."
  27. "Call this an unfair generalization if you must, but old people are no good at everything."
  28. "Life would be infinitely happier if we could only be born at the age of eighty and gradually approach eighteen."
  29. "Of late I appear To have reached that stage When people who look old Who are only my age"
  30. "I'm sixty years of age. That's 16 Celsius."

Miyerkules, Oktubre 26, 2011

Love is...


Here is a song that speaks of love in its truest language...

Love - love is patient love is kind
Love does not worry does not boast
It is not proud it is not rude
It is not easily angered
Love keeps no record of wrongs

Love never fails never fails
I promise you
My love will never fail
And I will give to you
Faith hope and love

Love does not delight in evil
Love - will always protect
always trust and always hope
and it will persevere
love rejoices in truth

Love never fails never fails
I promise you
My love will never fail
And I will give to you
Faith hope and love
Love never fails never fails
I promise you
My love will never fail
And I will give to you
Faith hope and love
But the greatest of these is love
there is only one happiness in this world - to love and be loved.